The life of a woman is a ride of experiences. Right from the time she turns into a woman from a little girl to the time she crosses all the phases of relationships; she knowingly-unknowingly begins to carry the tiny bag of responsibilities on her back. It is as if nature fills in that quality and a sense of knowing within her, that, she never fails to accomplish the cause of her life as a woman.
Amongst all the phases of relationships she steps in, enduring her role as a ‘Daughter-in-law’ is the toughest. This is because, probably, all the relations are of her own blood. Either being a daughter, a sister, a mother, an aunt or a grandmother; all are an inseparable part of her. But, being a ‘Daughter-in-law’ is a special relation that she needs to nurture till the very end of her life. Because that is the bond, she needs to create, absorb and nurture like a bud. Being a wife is a matter of companionship which the couple takes care of. But the knot that needs to be tied with the ‘In-laws’ is something that depends on the woman and her capabilities of holding the other half’s family.
We, often, come across discussions, arguments and controversies on the issue where either the ‘In laws’ complain about the ‘Daughter-in-law’ or vice versa. Apparently, this should not be a matter of a debate at all. It is ultimately on a person how he/she looks at a relationship. So we thought to discuss the seven traits a married woman must display to be a best ‘Daughter-in-law’-
#1. Never consider herself as a ‘Daughter-in-law’
Once a woman gets married, she naturally feels burdened by an additional tag of relations attached to her. The best way to feel unaffected is by considering her as a daughter and not a ‘Daughter-in-law’. Instead of feeling burdened, she should try to feel homely, thus making the air comfortable for both.
#2. Get involved with the family like her own
Once she starts considering herself as a daughter that belongs at the same place, she should try getting involved with the family like she would do with her own. Getting involved in all the situations, happy and sad moments, will surely help build a deep and strong bond with the in-laws.
#3. Treat the In-laws like she would treat her own parents
A woman should never differentiate between her own parents and the In-laws. This only creates a rift between the two. She should take care of her In-laws with equal love and affection and make them feel homely and wanted, as she would behave with her own parents.
#4. Try to maintain transparency with the In-laws
A woman should always try and maintain transparency with her In-laws. Talking about the little matters, day-to-day chores, opening up to them about personal, financial, professional or any other issues will surely help strengthen the bond between the two. They will not only feel assured but will also trust her for life.
#5. Try to build trust
Trust is the backbone of any relationship. So, it is in this case that a woman should firstly try to gain trust of her In-laws, then be it in smaller things. Try to make them comfortable with you and make them feel secured. Help them believe in you that you will never distance their son from them and that they can always look forward to her as their own in their later ages. This will help them treat you as their own daughter.
#6. Surprise them often
She should try and make an effort to surprise her In-laws often. Take them for shopping, buy stuffs for them, celebrate their special days, spend time with them, go on trips, make them realize that they are still young, do adventures with them and many more. This will surely tighten the knot that won’t loosen up easily.
#7. Last and the most important -Respect them. No matter what
Respect is another important factor that holds up a relationship. It is a two-way affair. You give one, you get one. A woman should never disrespect her In-laws, despite the situation. Even if they are wrong and unreasonable, an ideal daughter-in-law should never cross her line of respect. There is always a way of handling things and respect is the thin line. Once that is crossed, she can never get in the good books of her in-laws. If there is something the In-laws differ to agree, make them understand in a way without hurting their respect and dignity. This will only help her gain respect for herself in their eyes.
There are many more tiny details and factors that affect a relationship with the in-laws. We cannot shrink it to a few. Relationship with In-laws is the most important, raw, sensitive and beautiful thing that a woman can experience, if only she keeps herself up with the little things that matter. Not always do materials impress and make you big, sometimes, emotions promote you to the level where no one ever can. Just keep that space in there and you can conquer the world. Not only will it make you the best ‘Daughter-in-law’ but also the best human being…